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The Recipe for True Friendship – Anatomy of Trust

14 Nov

 

B.R.A.V.I.N.G is the recipe for TRUST (Credit to Brene Brown)

B       Boundaries. I trust you if you are clear about your boundaries and hold them. I trust you if you are clear about my boundaries and you respect them. There is no Trust without boundaries.

R       Reliability. I can only trust you if you do what you say you are going to do. You cannot get Trust if you are reliable only once, but only if you are reliable over and over (with consistency). Deliver on your commitments.

A       Accountability. I can only trust you if, when you make a mistake, you are ready to own it, apologise for it, and make amends. I can only trust you, if when I make a mistake, I am allowed to own it, apologise for it and make amends.

V       Volt. What I share with you, you will hold in confidence. What you share with me, I will hold in confidence.

I        Integrity. Choosing courage over comfort, Choosing what is right, over what is fun, fast or easy. Practicing your values, not just professing your values.

N       Non-Judmental. I can fall apart, struggle and ask for help, without being judged by you. You can fall apart, struggle and ask for help, without being judge by me. Real trust does not exist if trust is not reciprocated and non-judgmental.

G       Generosity. A relationship, is only a trusting relationship if you can assume the most generous things about my words, intentions and behaviours. And then, check with me. So, if I screw up, you will make a generous assumption….

 

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